Yeah Yeah, I know that I am a selfie addict and I am sure you are all bored as shit with my obsession with my self image but for once, amazingly enough, I am not talking about my reflection in the mirror!!! Well…my self image may come up in conversation but it is not the focus of this post.
It was my birthday on Tuesday and I realized that incredibly, it has been an entire year since I began my journey of self discovery and self improvement and my continuing journey towards self actualization!!! Okay fuck I know I said that this blog was not all about my self image and I promise it’s not but WTF this blog is about me so of course I have a starring role!!
Anyway, it has been a year since my journey and I thought it would be a good idea to reflect back from where I started, to where I am today….Who the fuck would have thought that 12 months ago the simple little thought in my head ” I want to try sex” would turn out to be such an epic and wonderful journey of self improvement, self discovery….And this blog!!! I mean really, what started as a dirty little sex blog ended up being a chronicle of my journey.
I would not change any of my experiences over the last 12 months, sure I had sex with some fucking perverts (not my favorite moments) and not everything has been smooth sailing but I honestly believe that with adversity comes strength and it is the crappy shit in life and how we handle it that makes us grow and assists us towards self actualizing…..!!!
So what the fuck is this self actualization bullshit??? Glad you asked!!! It is actually a theory by Abraham Maslow and one which held great fascination for me back in my college years!! There have been many adaptations of his theory, some interesting and some complete and utter garbage….I remember one adaptation suggested that each layer of the pyramid was a life and each time you come back you learn more lessons until you reach the pinnacle of self actualization and that if you were a child molester in one life you will come back as a victim of a child molester in the next life…what a total crock of shit…..Anyway there are 12 characteristics of a self actualized person according to Maslow’s theory…..
- Self-actualized people embrace the unknown and the ambiguous.
- They accept themselves, together with all their flaws.
- They prioritize and enjoy the journey, not just the destination.
- While they are inherently unconventional, they do not seek to shock or disturb.
- They are motivated by growth, not by the satisfaction of needs.
- Self-actualized people have purpose.
- They are not troubled by the small things.
- Self-actualized people are grateful.
- They share deep relationships with a few, but also feel identification and affection towards the entire human race.
- Self-actualized people are humble.
- Self-actualized people resist enculturation.
- Despite all this, self-actualized people are not perfect.
Personally I feel like I am well on my way towards self actualization and these principals have helped me in my understanding of myself and my interactions with others……Oh and I am working on being humble….Lol, truly I am!!
At the end of the day one of the most rewarding things about my blog is when I get comments from people that I have been an inspiration to them or that they admire my courage or strength….Everyone has it within them to make positive changes to their life and to become the person they want to be and not the person society or experiences has molded…..All you need to do is take that first step….go on…You can do it!!!
I want to see you be brave!!!